4 Secrets to Step Out From Being a Victim
4 Steps to Step Out From Being a Victim: Responsibility
In the end, each one of us is the sum total of all his actions. When you look back on your life, what you did every day brought you to where you are now; what you will do every day from now on will determine your future. The better you are at taking responsibility for that fact, the more successful you will be. Period. The secret: you are responsibility for everything in your life.
Taking responsibility for everything in your life is the difference between managing your life and being a victim. Have you ever known someone who blames other people or fate whenever something goes wrong? I’ll bet that that person isn't very successful, right? There's a saying, “You can't be a victim and a victor." This is absolutely true. There's no way around it. Either you take charge, take action, and then take responsibility for the results, or you take what's left to you as a victim.
What's holding you back from achieving more success? Do you feel like you're in control of your destiny? Could it be that your fears are getting in your way? Studies have shown that 60% of our fears are totally without basis; 20% are about past experiences and so are out of our control; another 10% are just petty distractions. That leaves 10%, and only 4% to 5% of those are really justified. And of that 4% to 5%, we can only do something about 2%. So the logical thing for each one of us to do is to get to work on that 2%!
Taking responsibility means planning your activity and taking action. Here are some areas to do that in:
- Control your time - Don't let it control you and don't waste it. Plan what you're going to do with your day and do it. Things will come up, but don't let them destroy your day.
- Control your thoughts – As I discussed in the self-esteem posts , managing your thoughts so that they are positive is one of the most important things you can do to be successful.
- Choose the people you spend time with – You can’t change all the people you work with or even live with, but you can manage the amount of time you spend with each one, and you can choose to include more positive people whom you can learn from in your life.
- Control your commitments – Commit your energy and your time only to positive people, projects, and goals. It's easy to get caught up in things that are not producing positive results for you, but that leads to you being a victim not a victor.
Taking responsibility is your path to becoming successful. The alternative is to be a victim who has to rely on what others leave you. That’s NOT how you live an Intentional Life...it’s time to CHANGE things up!
Until next time...
Lisa
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