The Small Details That Might be Ruining Your Dates

When it comes to being successful on dates, the devil is very much in the details.

If you've had a string of unsuccessful dates, then there's a very good chance that this will have damaged your self-esteem and perhaps even your faith in dating at all. You might be wondering what the point in dating is or whether you'll ever find someone.

But instead of going 'macro' and focusing on big overarching concepts like your appearance or the nature of dating, instead, consider looking at the small factors. This is the idea of kaizen and it suggests that making small continuous improvements can often add up to the very best results in the long term.

Maybe by just making several small tweaks, you could have more success?

Why Small Details Matter

When you meet someone new, you quickly form an opinion in a matter of minutes. This is something that we know to be true: first impressions count and if you get off on the wrong foot it can be very hard to fix that.

And when it comes to first impressions, we look at small details to decide our opinion of people. An un-ironed shirt, for instance, suggests on an unconscious level that someone is a bit of a slob. Fingernails are also a big deal breaker for some men and women. Shoes and watches suggest style (or lack thereof…).

In other words, to make the best impression you need to make the best first impression. And to do that you need to think about the little details.

If you want to have more success on your dates, then consider making some of the following small changes:

• Improve your dress sense – Buy some clothes that go well together and make an effort to keep them looking good. Buy a steamer!
• Work on your body language – When you enter a room, try to push your chest out and upwards and to raise your chin. It's a great habit to get into.
• Consider your conversation – Listening is your most important skill, don't try to drive the conversation.
• Complexion – You can't help a bad complexion but look into ways of managing it to improve your first impressions.
• Hair cut – Never underestimate the impact this can have on your overall attractiveness. For women, the right makeup is also very important.
• Locations – Choose the right location for your date and make sure it plays to your strengths!

Whether it's your first date or hundredth date, you want to share the experience with your partner and make a memory. Relax, smile, and have a good time. Perhaps you've made a new friend, or, just maybe, you are with the person you'll spend the rest of your life with.

Things to look for: a warm smile, twinkle in the eyes, and a kind heart...and don't forget to be that person, too.

Until next time...

Cheers!

Lisa

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