Tips for Dealing with Guilt When You Cut People Out of Your Life 

 As we’ve discussed along our journey in other posts, sometimes it’s necessary to cut people out of your life. When someone doesn’t respect your boundaries repeatedly, they are being disrespectful and causing you strife. Therefore, you may need to set a hard limit and remove them from your sphere. Allowing that person to continue to interact with you may be more harmful than any good they might bring. Only you can make that decision. But when you do, know that it’s okay. You don’t have to feel guilty. Keep these tips in mind when you decide you’ve had enough.

 Remember How They’ve Treated You

 It can be tempting to only focus on the good times or to accept the repeated apologies...I know because I’ve been there. We all want to see the good in others. However, just because someone may have good in them doesn’t make them good for you. You’re allowed to decide to let people go. Don’t let yourself forget the times they’ve caused you pain or discomfort. This isn’t holding onto negativity, it’s simply reinforcing the reasons you’ve decided to cut ties.

 Know Your Worth

 We are all worthwhile and valuable people. Don’t let anyone’s actions tell you that you’re less than. If someone’s treatment of you makes you feel like you don’t matter or that you’re not good enough, take some time to think things through. That person wouldn’t want you in their life if they weren’t getting something from you. You bring a lot to the table. Sometimes it takes stepping away from toxic people to help you remember just how valuable you are.

 Take Care of Yourself

 It’s not selfish or narcissistic to prioritize yourself. If you feel that you’re constantly giving to someone with very little return effort, take stock of that relationship. Putting yourself first in such situations is merely self-care, and it will pay off in improved emotional well-being. Allowing yourself to become someone else’s doormat is the opposite of taking care of yourself.

 Consider the Alternative

 Yes, you may feel guilty when letting someone go...again, I’ve been there. You may even miss them. But don’t forget to consider the alternative. Remind yourself what it would be like to continue to allow them to treat you this way again and again. Think about what that would do to your peace of mind, your self-esteem, and your trust in others. This gentle reminder can help you to overcome any guilt you might be experiencing.

 These tips should help you to begin letting go of any guilt you feel for letting toxic people go. Over time, the guilt will lessen, and the sheer relief will increase. You’ll feel renewed when you remove such negativity from your life, and you’ll be free to welcome better things in.

What do you want for your life? There’s going to be a moment between your last breaths...what will you be thinking? Will you have regrets? Will you know that you’ve lived your best life and that you lived within your values?

Until next time...

Lisa