6 AMAZING Benefits of Learning to Love Yourself
6 Amazing Benefits Of Learning To Love Yourself
No matter how much the hardest among us deny this – we all have a desire to be loved. Often, it's a romantic love that we crave. We are caught up in our loneliness and it's normal to have a want for companionship. Though, romance isn't everyone's struggle or want – it may be a familial want or a platonic friendship. While, for some it may be a combination of all of these.
Rejection and hurt can leave us feeling unfulfilled and disillusioned with how we expect relationships to play out. For some of us, rejection came from our own parents; if you are a child of divorce, you may have developed a false belief that you were somehow to blame. If you have experienced divorce yourself, you may harbor feelings of disappointment, insecurity, or guilt. Often, we create our ideas about relationships and even visualize just how things should be. When they don't go as we want them to, we often blame ourselves and wonder where we went wrong... that's not what it's about.
The Indian Proverb, A House With Four Rooms, advocates for taking care of yourself by doing something for your physical, mental, emotional, and spiritual health every single day to be a complete person. There are many different things you can do to for your wellbeing…and loving yourself is at the top of the list!
This is where learning to love yourself comes in – and that comes with some incredible benefits, here are six amazing benefits of learning to love yourself.
- You'll Be Large & In Charge
Instead of making bad choices because you're being led by shame, guilt or fear – you will be empowered to make choices that truly make sense for who you are – meaning you will be living your authentic life. You will no longer be caught up with people pleasing, instead you will live a life that brings you satisfaction. Self-love means trying to honor yourself because you know your needs are just as important as those of others.
2. You Set Boundaries & Stick To Them
Once you have the hang of honoring your needs you start to feel more confident, which means you are more assertive. Of course, this results in a more purposeful attitude, especially when it comes to dating. You start to see who is wasting your time and you're strong enough to move forward without them. More to the point, you are strong enough to set clear boundaries with people and stick to them.
3. The Approval Seeking Will Stop
When you truly love yourself, you stop worrying about what everyone else thinks about you – which means you're a less defensive person and more confident about living a life that is authentic for you. What others think of you really isn’t any of your business. Why would you need acceptance from everyone else when you truly accept yourself?
4. You Will Be A Conscious Decision Maker
Loving yourself gives you the courage to cut things from your life that don't truly bring you joy or provide you with ample space to grow. It's easy to make courageous decisions when you value yourself and actively make choices that are intended to honor you, rather than risk harming you. As a conscious decision maker, you are able to take charge of your life.
5. You Will Enjoy Alone Time
A lot of people get caught up in keeping busy schedules simply because they're terrified of feeling or being alone. You surround yourself with people, throw yourself into work, and make decisions that help you avoid that loneliness. Why would you do all of the things that you don't love? You could be filling that time with things that you actually enjoy doing – whether it’s meditation, swimming, writing or watching a movie. It doesn't need to feel scary to spend time alone, you should enjoy time with yourself. Self-love brings more comfort when you're spending time in your own company.
6. Happiness
You don't need to find happiness in relationships, whether they're romantic or not. The only love that you truly need to be happy is the love of yourself. As Abe Lincoln once said, “You are as happy as you make up your own mind to be.” When you start taking responsibility for it and stop giving your power away to everyone else, you will naturally feel happier. If you're not in a romantic relationship, you will find that you aren't as desperate to be in one as you once were because you know you don't need them. When the right person shows up, you will be ready for that love.
A House With Four Rooms hosts the Transformational Life Coaching Membership, A Pilgrimage to Self. Following the Indian Proverb, the membership offers strategies for “airing” out your four rooms. The membership brings you along the PATHS to Discover, Design, and Develop the Intentional Life of YOUR Dreams! When you walk the PATH of Self-Awareness, you not only Discover your Purpose, but you learn to LOVE YOURSELF.
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The life philosophy of A House With Four Rooms suggests thinking of yourself as being four rooms: physical, mental, emotional, and spiritual rooms. It advocates for doing something daily for your physical, mental, emotional, and spiritual well-being.