Are You Your Own Worst Enemy?

 Obstacles. Hurdles. Barriers. Roadblocks. These are all common sights along the road to achievement. Many women have found themselves at a CROSSROADS  at one time in their lives...whether dealing with heartbreak, separation, divorce, an empty nest, retirement, or other life changes.

 If you have ever worked towards a goal that most people would label as “unrealistic”, then you have undoubtedly faced one challenge after another. In fact, when you reach the point where you feel like giving up, that is usually when things get even tougher.

 Believe it or not, these external obstacles are actually the easy part. They are obvious. We can examine them and devise a plan to work through them or around them. For example, if you want to start a business but lack the funding, there are a variety of tangible action steps you can take to resolve your funding issues.

 Discovering your heart’s desires is just the first of many stepping stones, and you can move forward on your PATH if you know the barriers to watch out for.

The real barriers to success are the internal roadblocks. This is where it gets difficult. This is where you battle your own self doubts, worries and feelings of unworthiness.

 You may have the best work ethic in the world. You may have the strictest discipline and self control. But if your mind is listing all of the reasons why you shouldn’t have what you truly want, you are fighting a losing battle.

 For many of us, these negative tapes have been playing the same disempowering messages in our minds for years. For some of us, these messages have been running since childhood.

This internal dialogue has the power to hold us back if we let it. This is also how we find ourselves at CROSSROADS in our lives and find it difficult to move on and forward in life.

The only way to cross the invisible line from feeling unworthy to feeling powerful and capable is to change the internal dialog. Instead of repeating patterns of thoughts telling you why you can’t do something, you flip the switch. You spend time every day reprogramming those internal tapes. When an old disempowering message begins to play, you train yourself to switch it to a positive.

Having a positive mindset and knowing that you are responsible for your thoughts, feelings, and actions will put you in a position to find clarity and direction. With this, you can take design your next best steps.

 Slowly but surely you forge a new path. A new way of thinking. A new internal dialog. Instead of being your own worst enemy, you become your own cheerleader. It is in that moment that everything in your life changes.

Take some time to confront your internal dialogue and put a stop to the negative self-talk...stop being your own worst enemy.

Until next time...

Cheers!

Lisa